DP: Let's go to Minneapolis and Marcy. Hello, Marcy, Dennis Prager.
Marcy: Hi, Dennis.
DP: Hi.Marcy: Thanks so much for taking my call. It really means a lot to me. I really think you're the only person that i could ask this question to.
DP: Well, I hope not, but I'll try.
Marcy: Okay, I've been married for five and a half years, and really a happy person, but my husband is probably, and this is no understatement, the most unhappiest person I've ever met in my life. And most people that meet us will say wow, how are you two married to each other?
DP: They will actually say it to the two of you?
Marcy: Yes, they will.
DP: And what...
Marcy: And on more than one occasion.
DP: What will he answer?
Marcy: He usually shrugs his shoulders, and you know, kind of says I know, I know.
DP: Well, but I will ask you that question. Why did you marry the unhappiest man in the world?
Marcy: Well, we have a common faith in the Lord, and that has been the foundation of our marriage since the very beginning, and is, you know, that's where my joy comes from. So even if he's an unhappy person, I don't have to bank my happiness on him.
DP: Right, but there are people who have faith in God and are happy.
Marcy: Yes.
DP: Why did you pick an unhappy man who has faith in God?
Marcy: I didn't know how unhapy he was, like the depth of his unhappiness.
DP: Okay, that's what I assumed. And you were nineteen.
Marcy: And I was nineteen, yeah.
DP: Okay, all right. Now this is a very, so your question is what?
Marcy: My question is I want to know if we should have children, because the thought of having, like I've always wanted a big family, but I'm afraid that our kids are going to have to suffer the heartache of dealing with such an unhappy person.
DP: How does his unhappiness manifest itself?
Marcy: Grumbling, anger...
DP: Is the anger, is the anger directed at you?
Marcy: No, but he doesn't, he's very, people would think he's very proud. And so when you try to talk to him, he just doesn't want to listen, and is really angry at everything. Not so much at me, though.
DP: And he grumbles a lot?
Marcy: Yeah.
DP: So he complains a lot?
Marcy: Yeah. He's just generally depressed.
DP: Now if he heard this call, what would he say?
Marcy: Good question. I think he would know, I would be willing to say if he was sitting in the room with me, he would agree with everything that I'm saying.
DP: And he would say...
Marcy: He would kind of say, this is life, this is me.
DP: Okay, this is me, therefore does the 'this is me' mean so therefore, Marcy, accept me for what I am? Don't try to change me?
Marcy: He wants to change. He doesn't like being happy.
DP: You mean, he doesn't like being unhappy?
Marcy: Yes, that's right.
DP: Or doesn't like being happy, because the Freudian slip might have been accurate.
Marcy: He doesn't like...
DP: He may not like being happy. There are a lot of unhappy people who actually pickle their unhappiness, because they get more attention, they have self-pity, they bathe in their unhappiness, and they find it to be a warm bath. So I don't know if he would like to be happy. I don't know. What if you said honey, as much as I love you and as much as we share a faith in the Lord, I don't want children to be raised by an unhappy parent, I know the devastation that that brings, and therefore if you can't change, we will need to divorce?
Marcy: I can't say that, I guess.
DP: You can't say that for religious reasons or emotional reasons?
Marcy: I think both.
DP: But you would like to be...
Marcy: I just want him to be happy more than anything.
DP: You would like...I know you do.
Marcy: I just want him to be happy.
DP: I know you do. That's what every happy person married to an unhappy person wants that. You unhappy people married to happy people, look at the devastation you bring on nice people.
End of call.